BEFORE BECOMING SEXUALLY ACTIVE
Sexuality and sexual desires are a natural part of who men are and how they are naturally wired. Many teens and single men don’t express this sexuality physically until after marriage. It’s healthy for teens and single men to have open conversations about sexual matters from time to time with trusted adults such as family and friends to gain healthy perspectives.
From a physical standpoint, the only preparation the male reproductive system requires for future sexual activity are nocturnal erections to maintain sexual functions and wet dreams to prevent sexual fluid congestion. No “exercises”, “experimentation”, or even masturbation is necessary in order to have the reproductive system working as it should within marriage. In fact, the best physical preparation for sex within marriage is taken care of naturally by the male body for the vast majority of men while a man is asleep. Having healthy sexual expectations and sexual self-control before marriage can and will enhance sexual fulfillment within marriage.
Sexual experimentation and promiscuity is most rampant during the late teens and early adulthood. Without proper guidance and intervention on the part of parents and other trusted adults, promiscuity can lead to severe consequences including emotional problems, unsafe sexual practices and the risks of contracting sexually transmitted infections or disease, and unintended pregnancies. Furthermore, unhealthy expectations or sexual behavior learned from pornography often leads men to engage in sexual behavior that is not only emotionally damaging but potentially physically dangerous as well. In fact, it is not uncommon for men who have struggle with pornography and masturbation addiction to move from one relationship to the next seeking a “new” sexual experience.
Sexual promiscuity is the leading cause of contracting a sexually transmitted infection.
HEALTH SEXUAL ACTIVITY
Sexual activity within marriage is extremely healthy. Many religions teach that sexual activity should be reserved only within marriage. Couples can and do grow closer together by sharing themselves sexually with one another and committing themselves physically to only their spouse. The sexual aspects of the relationship are only one portion of a healthy relationship and should not be the main driving force in a relationship. On the other hand, neglecting the sexual aspects of a marriage relationship can be equally as damaging to a marriage.
From a Men’s Health standpoint fertility (including conception, contraception, and issues with infertility) are of greatest concern during the child-bearing years. Because these are extremely important aspects in Men’s Health (and quite honestly the entire reason the male reproductive system is designed the way it is), we have dedicated section to fertility.
Men reach their physical prime in their 20’s. However, studies have shown that even though the physical prime of the male and female reproductive systems are in early adulthood, there are mental and physiological changes that occur that make men’s (and women’s) have sexual primes later in life. Some couples report that the most sexually fulfilling time in their lives were in their 40’s or later. There is typically more security and confidence in the marriage relationship. Men’s reproductive systems slow down a little thus delaying orgasm often allowing sexual activity to last longer and be more fulfilling. It’s particularly interesting that married couples report sexual satisfaction that is higher than non-married couples – so longer, more stable marriages often correlate to the highest rates sexual satisfaction.[i]
However, as men age, the male reproductive system can become more susceptible to certain disorders. These have all been discussed in this site, but a brief listing below may help point some aging men to the correct sections: